I ask myself this a lot. Like, why is it such a rare thing these days for people to just keep it real? Whether it’s in relationships, friendships, work settings anywhere really being honest, consistent, and transparent seems to be the exception, not the rule.

Let’s start with honesty. You’d think telling the truth would be the easier option, right? But people will twist themselves into emotional pretzels just to avoid being real. Maybe it’s fear of confrontation, fear of being judged, or even fear of losing control. But here’s the thing: lies create confusion, mistrust, and distance. And honestly? That’s way worse than just facing the truth head-on.

Then there’s consistency. I don’t need you to be perfect I just need you to be predictable. Show up how you say you will. Keep the same energy. Follow through. It’s not about grand gestures; it’s about the small actions that align with your words. Inconsistency makes people feel unstable, like they’re walking on eggshells. And that’s exhausting.

And transparency? Whew. That one hits. Being transparent doesn’t mean oversharing or spilling every detail it means being open about your intentions, your feelings, and where you stand. It builds trust. It fosters real connection. It keeps people from having to guess or overthink or assume.

So, why is it so hard?

Maybe it’s because honesty requires vulnerability. Consistency demands discipline. And transparency takes courage.

believe we can do better. believe we want to do better we’re just sometimes too scared to show up as our full, flawed selves. But here’s the truth: realness is magnetic. And in a world full of masks and highlighted reels, being genuine is the most powerful thing you can be.

Let’s normalize honesty. Let’s value consistency. Let’s choose transparency. Every day. In every space. With ourselves and with each other.