Let’s talk about proximity and comfort zones.

Sometimes, we cling to the people closest to us not because they’re meant for our journey, but because they’re convenient, familiar, and easy to access. We settle for what’s within reach instead of reaching higher.

But here’s the truth I had to learn the hard way: not everyone near you is aligned with your purpose. Some folks are just close enough to cast shade not light.

We think, “They’ve been around forever, so they must be for me.” But longevity doesn’t equal loyalty. Proximity doesn’t mean purpose. And just because they’re in your circle doesn’t mean they’re pouring into your spirit.

The blessings you’re praying for? The elevation you’re seeking? It could be delayed because you’re too busy holding space for someone who was only meant to be a lesson, not a lifelong seat-holder.

You ever notice how certain people start getting uncomfortable when you grow? When your dreams start expanding, their energy starts shifting. That’s the shade I’m talking about. And shade stunts growth.

Don’t settle. Don’t dim. Don’t shrink to keep someone close.

And don’t get me wrong you may feel bad about it. That’s all part of healing. It’s natural to grieve what once felt safe, even if it wasn’t good for you. But stand up for yourself. Hold your head high. You have to take a few fumbles before you gain that steady stride. That’s growth. That’s evolution.

Sometimes God will intentionally allow shade to fall so you can move. So you can realize your light doesn’t belong in the shadows of someone else’s comfort zone.

Your tribe, your real people, your aligned opportunities they may not be right next to you right now. But trust this, they exist. And they’re waiting on you to stop making room for what blocks your blessing.

So step out from the shade.

Step into your light.

Let go of the “close” and make space for the called.